Stop Procrastinating and Break Bad Habits
Do you always put things off and never quite complete a task?
Do you take on too much?
Are you a perfectionist?
“Most people think the will to survive is the strongest instinct in human beings, but it isn’t. The strongest instinct is to keep things familiar” – Virginia Satir.
Procrastination is a funny thing, we know we have to do something yet we put it off until the very last minute or don’t do it at all! Some might say that they enjoy the rush a deadline gives them, or that they feel more focused when under pressure.
That may be so, but it is not helping your stress levels!! Putting things off is something that can be changed by discovering what triggers the behaviour in the first place. It has been said that perfectionism is the sister of procrastination, so maybe you just don’t get started for fear of failure or of not being good enough. Perhaps it’s a fear of the future? Whatever your reason, your trigger, the Stop Procrastination programme will help you identify your “why” and finally get you moving forward.
The way human beings operate in our worlds is by generalising – by making things familiar. This can have its benefits and help us to prosper and survive because to would be awfully time consuming to have to think carefully about each and everything we do, for example opening a door. Each door may look different but we know it’s a door so we use the same strategy each time to open and close it, we don’t have to think of each step of the process. Similarly, with meeting new people – in some cultures people shake hands, in others they may bow their heads or kiss the cheeks and here in New Zealand we have the traditional Maori hongi. So, if you’re used to shaking hands and have never seen or heard about the hongi, you may be somewhat surprised when the other person presses their forehead up against yours, touching noses! You have to “come back to your senses” to figure out how to respond to this new situation. So, we make everything familiar and run the pattern until it doesn’t function anymore. The we review it and change the way we think and act………….or do we?
Take the habit of worry (or any habit for that matter like overeating, procrastinating etc), it becomes so familiar we don’t have to think about it, we just do it over and over again. It’s a pattern or programme running in our brain and we run it until perhaps one day our health and life suffers as a result, or we come to recognise that this is what we’re doing, and that we actually do have the choice to do things differently. We can become addicted to the chemicals that this worry or stress produces in our bodies even if it doesn’t make us feel good, it’s familiar, the proverbial comfort zone (which may be a nice place but nothing grows there!) so we keep doing it.
Perhaps we don’t know how to change this pattern, or that we even have a choice to change. Maybe we think it’s inherited and we’re stuck with it? Or we hope in vain that eventually things will change all by themselves while we keep repeating the pattern – which by the way Einstein sums up nicely in the following quote:
“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result”
The 3 steps to making lasting change are:
The person wanting change must be so fed up of having the problem that they decide they really want to change
They need a new perspective on the problem
New, empowering options need to be found or created and an action plan put into place.
This is where NLP and hypnosis proves a valuable tool, we have to change our state of consciousness to do something new – just like the new greeting style – we’ve been “surprised” out of our normal state of consciousness to respond to the new situation. Hypnosis and NLP not only facilitates this change in consciousness, but also helps us to minimise or let go of the impact of past experiences and create and integrate in their place, more helpful, empowering strategies and states. The hypnotherapist can help people discover these new choices and strategies and strengthen them effortlessly whilst the client is in this altered state of consciousness.